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Ruth Domanski's avatar

Lovely words Susie, thank you. The "plaque" is beautiful, a wonderful sentiment.

My favourite view is from my seat at the kitchen table looking at the dresser. It's stuffed full of "memories"; pieces of china I've had since I was a child; a glass engraved with my initial that my father gave me when I was a teenager ; silver spoons he brought back from India in the 50's; the list goes on.....

The whole house is very shabby and needs a major overhaul. All four parents had Dementia, my poor Mum at 94 has had Alzheimer's for 15 years and is still with us. Caring and travelling long distances to do so, takes it's toll on your time.

Yes I would love a beautifully decorated home and a tidy garden but you have to make the best of what life throws at you and sometimes circumstances have positive outcomes in different ways.

My daughter was born when I was nearly 41, an amazing surpise, 6 months later my Dad was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia, the first parent to be diagnosed, followed by my mother, father in law and mother in law. My daughter has grown up in difficult circumstances , when she was 8 she had what she described as her "funeral" dress. However she has become the most compassionate, caring and kind person and is wonderful with "older" people.

The decorating can wait.

Sorry for the rambling.

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Ruth Partridge's avatar

Beautiful Susie .

Where do I start? I love the interior of our sitting room , soon to be the snug ( small extension about to start ). We have kept the colours neutral to let the dark furniture contrast . From my parent’s 1930s semi and my great grandparent’s country estate came a succession of family pieces throughout our married life culminating in clearing the final pieces instructed by my father from his nursing home bed some two years ago.

Mum had to quietly contend with family pieces all her life and you can imagine just how eclectic that would looking in a 3 bed semi.

Before she died she asked us to look for something larger and older . Shortly after her death we moved to a part 1650 cottage overlooking Dartmoor. 26 years later we now are custodians of 6 family portraits dating from 1700.

Cautious not to overload our home, we’ve kept things simple - ammonite Farrow and Ball or Skimming stone. Daringly this spring I experimented with Lick Blue 2 as a statement wall with pale grey in the study ( about to be incorporated into the garden room) and love how the gilt frames sing against it.

Why keep? Memories - stories of those who have gone before and shaped us or allowed us the lifestyle we have. I’m forever grateful. X

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